How do I become more authentic?
- It's important to be honest and true, but have some sort of filter between brain and lips. In other words, “say what you mean, but don’t say it mean.”
- Don’t let the “busyness” of life cut out my quiet time with God when I can process events and get centered.
- Have a dedicated time each day to get quiet and listen.
- Don’t confuse authenticity with perfection. Remember that God loves us exactly as we are.
- Be willing to be more vulnerable and transparent about what’s going on inside us.
- Be OK with being less confident.
- Discover the unique, divine, inner gift that we can express with other.
- Take time to meditate and allow God to enter our hearts.
- Be open about our personal flaws, failings, and short comings.
- Admit when I am wrong and do not know something.
- Reject the need for external approval.
- Be humble and vulnerable.
- Be open-hearted (much easier to do in a safe, loving environment).
- Share our values with others.
- Be willing to expose our feelings.
- Find a safe, loving, and supporting environment where we can open our hearts.
- Be authentic to Christ.
- Remember that God often has a different plan than the one we’ve created in our heads.
- God often puts us in places to form and humble us.
- How do we deal with shame?
How do I deal with shame?
- Face shame by sharing it with others in a healing environment without the fear of judgement.
- Process shame in the presence of God by journaling or confessing it.
- Speak it rather than denying it and pretending it doesn’t exist.
- Accept God’s grace.
- Speak our shame and tell our story to others.
- Invite others to speak their pain without diminishing, blaming, or problem-solving.
- Reach out to a safe community.
- Openly communicate our feelings to others.
- Listen to others and affirm their feelings.
- Get men more involved so they participate more in church.
- Be with people who think differently than we do.